Low Key Frenemies
We're all guilty. Your friend announces they got a promotion/launched a start up/got engaged and while you mouth phrases along the lines of congratulations bebs, your brain is playing "that should be me" on repeat.
I mean why not? You know you would do just as good a job - you have the talent too, if only the opportunity had come your way instead. So you offer a weak message of support, and perhaps don't even like their FB post as a one man campaign for your own competence. When did we start holding back? Why are we not the first comment, like and make glitter-covered banners of support for our girl gang?
Unfortunately some of us have tiptoed into the territory of low key frienemy status without even knowing it. Except they know. Did you think it would go unnoticed that you've failed to ask how their new job is going, or passively aggressively mentioned how their 21st was 'so cute' (a far cry from your own which was literally described as off the chain).
And it's not everyone, most of the time our good friend game is 10/10, but when it's close to home that beeeeeetch Insecurity decides to come to the party and take down her competitors on the d low. We begin to view our friends' success/beauty/happiness as taking something from us. She posted a fire selfie, so I feel less pretty. She got an A+, so I feel less smart.
When did it become such a struggle to be genuinely happy for our friends?! How sad is it that we almost rejoice when they fail, struggle, or have a bad skin day, because it somehow makes us feel better about ourselves?
If we used our powers for good, empower rather than extradite, the girl power level in this region would sky rocket - we need more than one successful gal up in here! Let's stop being our own worst enemy, for goodness sake we have enough of those already.
Someone else's success does not determine our own failure, I'm pretty certain there’s more than enough room in Auckland for all of our beauty and talents. (pls no more bloggers though... kidding!).