What I Would Say To My Ex: Guys Edition
We heard from the gals, now it’s time we asked some boys to open on up and share with us the raw and real words they wish they could say to their ex.
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They have remained anonymous for obvious reasons.
"It's the strangest thing to go from being best friends to distant acquaintances. I know that we will never be able to truly connect again; that's sad, weird and frustrating all at once. So some final words as we go our separate ways...thank you for all that you taught and gave me in our relationship. I'm quite content to say that there is nothing more to regret or forgive, there is simply pain to remember and good to celebrate. So I hope you continue to back yourself, winning people over with your charm and wit. Actively seek good in those around you. Speak your mind. Dare to trust. Dream big, dream small. Love fiercely. Know that many good things take time, and that's ok. Commit to people, commit to places, commit to growth. I promise that in the end, it's worth it."
“I thought we were forever. Fault in our stars shit. I was your Noah and you were my Allie. But fairytales remain fairytales for a reason, and I now know it’s because you weren’t the perfect, sweet, generous and giving person I thought you were. Comfort blinded us to the problems that were so deeply rooted in our relationship that we settled for second best. Complacency settled when the second time we got round because honestly, we hadn’t a clue what we wanted. I guess it was inevitable wasn’t it.
Thanks for showing me that second best isn’t good enough, and that I actually deserve nothing but the best this life, including who I will see next. Thanks for breaking me, because pain is the best catalyst for change. Thanks for moving on so quickly, because I wouldn’t have known my true worth moping about. And most of all, thanks for letting go, because without letting go, I wouldn’t know who I truly am. Thanks for everything and nothing.”
“Please stop stalking my new girl’s insta stories.”
“I’ve said so many sorries, but now it’s only thank yous. Thank you for putting an end to the mess I had created between us. You stopped the inevitable spiral downwards. Thanks for saying no, finally. It forced me to take responsibility for me. To search into uncomfortable depths. I did and it changed me - raised me to life. I straightened myself out and brought order to my chaos. And I learnt to love. In some ways it’s a shame I couldn’t have done that when we were together, but really I know that would never have happened. I don’t know where you are at, or anything about you anymore and that’s weird, but I hope you’ll confront your stuff too, work it out, and find the love and life you always wanted.”
“I love you”. That’s what you told me. Repeatedly. You made me believe you cared for me, that you were the one. That word clearly meant nothing to you. It was the highest form of leading someone on. I’m not sure I can ever forgive that. You will never know how much pain and hurt you’ve caused. I still can’t look at your face without bursting into tears. Where did I go wrong? I gave so much to you and to our relationship, only to have everything completely thrown back in my face.
You were my first love, and you knew that. My whole family and every friend I had welcomed you with open arms. Never in my wildest dreams did I think you’d act with such little care or empathy. Surely you knew it would break my heart. Clearly I wasn’t enough for you. But honestly I’m not sure if anyone will be. I miss you so much.”
"I wish that you could of seen our relationship through my eyes. I wish you could of felt every single emotion in their order the way I did. Maybe then, you would of looked past the doubt and fear of the future, and focused on the happiness and potential of the present. Remember that time I held you under those carnival lights that night? Everything was perfect, now I see that those lights were nothing but a metaphor for that part of my life. The metaphor continued; the happy carnival lights went out, and the sadness of the shadows took over.
How bizarre is it that after every minute of pain you put me through, I would still drop anything to talk to you under those lights again."
“I don’t think you quite realised what we had. I value both the time we had together but also the time of hurt after to help me grow and become so sure about myself after having to go through such a time when I was so broken. But screw you for setting the fun and connection bar so damn high for the next girl.”
“This is to my ex’s. For the good times and the bad. Some of you were fun, others kind, and one of you was pure crazy. In the end though, we just didn’t fit. We never were the right match. But I want to thank you all. For teaching me what I wanted, and more so, what I needed. So that when the girl that I would later call my wife, walked into my life, I didn’t have to think twice.”
"Hey. It was a good few years. It's part of who we are. All things work out for good. We are now with the right people, and we helped each other get there, so thanks for that. Thanks for not talking me down post break up. I think all things considered, we ended well. And that's probably the most important thing. All the best."