What Have You Always Dreamed Of Doing?

What Have You Always Dreamed Of Doing?

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Being in your twenties can sometimes feel like a cruel and confusing dance between “you’re young with all the time in the world” and “this is the only time to achieve your dreams before you settle down”. Coupled with a very topical goal-oriented mindset of “if you can dream it, you can do it”, dreaming can turn into a tiring, and sometimes anxiety-inducing, practice. White squares with black text all over Instagram tell us that we can achieve each and every one of our dreams, and it can feel almost wrong to voice something you’ve always wanted to do without a game-plan to back it up. But dreaming can be as serious or as frivolous as we want it to be, and to dream and imagine has been a hallmark of humanity since our days in the playground. We asked a handful of people below to share with us what they’ve always dreamed of doing, as sometimes the dream itself speaks louder than its translation to reality.

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"I wish I told my best friend that I loved him. Unrelentingly selfish but an ingenious creative who inspired me when no one else could, he was a free spirit and a massive asshole. It doesn't change things now but it's a shoulda, woulda, coulda kind of situation."

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"I’ve always wanted to ask people who have ghosted me after a few dates to be brutally honest about why. Did I talk too much about myself? Am I not pretty enough? Or are you just dating someone else on the fly? The thing that’s stopped me: common sense and the fact that I probably don’t actually want to know why." 

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"I've always dreamed of disappearing off to the US and living the American dream. Two kids and a wife, white picket fences, the lot. Although, eloping in Europe and smoking cigarettes out my apartment window whilst gazing at the alleyway below sounds pretty dreamy too."

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"I have always had in the back of my mind that I should write a picture book for children, all about soft, fluffy, cloud animals (and now that I have two feline muses, perhaps I should get moving!)." 

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"Something I have dreamed of doing since about year nine is shaving my head for that bad-boy buzz-cut aesthetic. What stopped me during school was the crippling fear of looking like an idiot and having to live with it until it grew back. I recently flirted with the idea again but when I asked my mum for her opinion she said that I was too thin and pale for a shaved head and that it would make me look like a neo-nazi."

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"I've always wanted to be a painter! And yes, your girl has got skills too. I was late with my art school application, so I ended up applying for a psychology degree. That didn't work out, so somehow I ended up in fashion school after a few years - at Saint Martins in London. I guess I have a natural flair for mixing colours, tones, textures which seemed to translate really well on set with styling for shoots. But, if I had to do it again, YES I'd probably do art school and paint my heart out. In saying that, not sure if it would have helped with my social skills, so maybe I AM on the right path?"

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"Starting a photography business...which we just did!"

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"I’ve always dreamed of travelling somewhere completely off the grid... whether it’s super outback Vietnam, Northern China or Siberia... I think comfort breeds complacency, and that there’s a beauty in getting completely out of your comfort zone and depth. Putting yourself somewhere where you’re disconnected from any recognisable form of society and connection and then forcing yourself to overcome those barriers.. I think those are the defining moments you really learn a lot about yourself."

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"To have a whirlwind romance in another country. It’s something I’ve never done, but the idea of a fleeting, moonlit tryst and then never seeing them again really appeals to the hopeless romantic in me."

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"I have a couple of things I have always dreamed of doing. The first is running a marathon. This is something that I dream of almost daily but when push comes to shove I always have an excuse. But, early 2019 I have a one lined up and I am very excited to start my training soon! My second dream is slightly less attainable, I have always wanted to be a TV chef. I even pretend I am on a TV show when I cook dinner (which drives my partner crazy). What's stopping me? I am now a lawyer, too deep in student debt for a career change and my nose would need some serious work done before it was TV presentable. But alas, I can still pretend."

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"I dream of one day getting rid of my phone… of not being constantly answerable to everyone, and to rid myself of the anxiety that comes with always having to be permanently ‘on call’, even just to friends."

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"I’ve always wanted to learn a musical instrument and how to read and understand music. There is something special about being able to create a beautiful sound and understand a creative language. What’s stopped me is my perception that it comes from a natural talent and also that it requires a lot of patience, which I don’t have."

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"My dream is to not be too afraid to be vulnerable. Growing up with a great deal of domestic instability, I always was looking for ways to find security, whether that was financially, academically, emotionally. I was looking for seas where my boat would not be rocked. And now I realise that that desire for security has spilled into my love life, or lack of. I dream about dating people, but as soon as anything looks like a real possibility, I will self-sabotage – say they’re too good for me, that they wouldn’t like someone like me, that they won’t think my glasses are cute. The list goes on, and my excuses are endless. But, I realize I do this because the prospect of dating, love, and romance also has the equal prospect of heartache, pain, and sorrow. My boat has been rocked too much already and I’m afraid that I’ll capsize (emotionally)."

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"I’ve always loved the idea of owning a stationery shop. LOOOOVE STATIONERY. And you never know? I think journals and notebooks are making a major comeback."

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"I had always dreamed of being a midwife, but unfortunately my high school science teacher said science wasn’t my strong-suit and I shouldn’t continue with it."

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"When I first got asked to write about this, I spent the afternoon mentally scrolling through my life and wondering what I’ve always dreamed of, that I haven’t already accomplished or started the journey towards accomplishing. Then it hit me as I was hanging out the washing, that this was my problem. I have always pushed myself immensely, without regard for myself. And now my physical and mental health has failed me. I wish I had looked after myself better. Now I can’t do the study or the job I had dreamed of, until I get well. Dreams are great, but you have to be in a place to make them happen first. Be kind to yourself, and the world will open up for you."

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"I think I’m too pragmatic for this! If want to do something I do it, or make a plan to get there."

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